You can find body language related information in many literatures. Most of them show an allocation of 90% for non-verbal mode in all type of communications. Notable is the study Silent Messages of Dr. Albert Mehrabian.
The said study allots 7% for words, 38% sound of voice, and 55% facial expression thereby body language gets total share of over 90% and more exactly 93%. The usual practice in our day-to-day life is to avoid overtly oppose others opinion.
Therefore, body language is gaining prominence and its worthiness in deciphering on what is in mind of a person rather than the overt words spelled out by the person to others. In the management of patients in the end stage of dementia, the posture of the patient helps for judging the pain undergone.
The capacity of such dementia patients to communicate verbally on their bodily pain is almost absent. On the other hand, nurses may not use the posture cue for other patients and they put questions to patients on the extent of pain felt rather than decipher from the actions. If a patient gives a bodily posture of their arms and legs crossed with a frown in the face, you may not communicate to them to avoid getting in return an angry outburst from them.
In this context, we tend to rely heavily on body language, but to confirm on their inner mind, it is better for an open discussion. Body language is a vent for the inner idea of the communicator and deceives him in front of others.
However, it is the spoken language when connected to the body language completes any communication process fully and deftly. Any body language becomes incomplete when it is devoid of spoken language and communion of both makes the scope of non-verbal communication wide. When your words and your body language mismatch each other, you get deceived by the body language before others.
Mehrabian understood the prominence of match between body language and spoken language. The heart of his study revolved around the similarity or evenness between words and body language and formed it as the foundation for his study on non-verbal communication.
When a person is naïve of body language, you may not bother on it. Earlier times, literature on body language were abundant and this is helped them to garner methods of them and experiment them without fully realizing on it. When somebody is in mood, but pose a sad look, you may not require literatures to decipher the signs.
The person with whom you are conversing may not have read literatures; it is most probable that your body language will deceive you before others. When we move around with people for day-to-day affairs, our concentration need to be not on our behavior, but on how our behavior correlate our words.
When we are energized, our body language shall reflect the energy and we can come out with words filled with energy. However, when we camouflage truths and our body language emulates jitteriness, it is fine. At the same time when we reveal the truth, the need for false body language is not there and if it is still we emulate it, then it becomes superfluous.
The reason for all is our human nature. Situations like, as we say sweet nothings to our spouse or in a meeting with our superior, we may be too weary or bored. Our mind may consider the things we speak as the most appealing or exhilarating thing in the universe, but if we are weary or yearn for food or even sick or had been foulmouthed on the day by the boss.
Then, our words may come out with flowery language but our body language will deceive us before all and reveal our true colors.
What are the ways to give a false look? Most think tanks have the opinion that you cannot give a false look. Nevertheless, if you are inclined to make yourself appear as happy, it may not happen. Now, then find a solution for it. The modus operandi is to enlarge the dissimilarity within our words and our body language.
The methods for enlarging dissimilarity are two: The initial way is that to practice truthfulness. It is just simple like this. Be as you are. If you are not ebullient, be look dull. If you are weary, be not appear too fit. You may appear fit, but need not act as fit. It is all nothing but not over acting.
If you have a difference of opinion with some body, be not accolade on the issue and deceive them. Try to wean away from the subject. When you are barged with questions like comments on dresses worn by your girlfriend or friend, try to give answers that beat around the bush. However, do not shun away from such questions.
The next step is to realize the way we cast our body language and try to diversify in it. Similarity implies the way we acted previously. So here, the trick is to give variation to our body language so that others decipher our inner feel from our body language.
So be ready to wean away similarity in your acts. More than the tricky nature of revealing a truth, distorting the similarity in your body language involves mind act on your inner feel as to being acquainted with the nuances of body language. At the same time, you need not to have an ocean of knowledge on body language, but know the fact that body language emulates as clusters.
For example, as one moves his arms is significant to the look of the face and the standing posture. Therefore, it is vital that signs of body language never should repeat for easy decipher by other persons. Therefore, you should knock down the clusters and wean away the similarities.